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Friday, 11 May 2012

When you're done, you are done

My mother is extremely involved in various projects and activities, and translating is one of them. Actually, my mother is the perfect translator because not only is she highly qualified, but she can also speak English on a native-speaker level. And I think I'll have to write a post about being a native speaker and translating.

And while my mother loves working on some text, others require more motivation. Then, my mother says: "Olga, tell me something that would motivate me". And I could tell my mother: "That's not so important. You can do that later". I could tell her: "You don't really need to do this translation." But this is not the way my mother operates. She needs something else, and I know what it is. And so I tell her: "If you finish this now, you won't have to deal with it later". 

This helps. And it seems logical: if you do something right away, you don't have to worry about it later. Sometimes, I am so exhausted and then I don't really feel like doing laundry or even cooking. With cooking, it's no problem- I can simply buy something in one of the many Indonesian restaurants close to my place.

But what about chores? Sometimes, I see no sense in doing laundry, because all those clothes will get dirty anyway. Same with cleaning.  Where is the sense in doing something if you have to do it all over again? And with two children, "again" will come sooner rather than later. 

I have started applying what I tell my mother in my own life: "If you do it now, you won't have to deal with it for a while." And so, magically, laundry practically does itself, and the beds get clean sheets regularly.

Of course, I've always been doing things this way. But my approach was a different one. I often complained about this or that taking so long. But it doesn't really take so much time! With the right mindset, it's actually quick! And then I'm free not to think of chores for a while. 

I am all for taking your time needed to accomplish a task. And I am all for not doing something if you don't feel like it. But sometimes you'll have to do this sooner or later and at that point you might be too tired or not have the time. And then, you end up with double amount of chores. 

Sometimes it pays to get things done quickly. Doesn't have to be all the time, though. 

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  1. I know what you mean. My chores seem to build up too often, but I know in the end if I do it, it doesn't take too much of my time. The problem for me though, is finding the right time. Mostly I stress about cleaning the kitchen or vacuuming and my baby is demanding playtime or a nap on my lap. I can either choose to let him cry while I clean or give him attention. I choose both, meaning that I'm trying to teach him to play by himself for a while even if it makes him cry, believe it or not, because otherwise I would not get a single thing done around the house.

    I also use something to make it easier that I learned from my mother. She always says "when you go, you take, when you come back, you bring.", which means no matter if you're going to the toilet, you can always find something around you that needs to be in a different place.

  2. Tarja, this is a good one. And yes, I know what your mother means by her saying. It's true-there is always something that needs to be done. But the more you put it off, the worse it becomes. Now I have a house cleaner and she is an angel in disguise! This totally helps! Another thing is, you are right. Mostly, the babies will be OK, and you'll get a clean kitchen.


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